Sex and the City: Rant + Spoiler, Also: Real Life
I saw SATC last weekend and liked the overall movie, but HATED the idea that a man (Big) can treat a woman (Carrie) so bad, make her so depressed and that, if at the end of the day, they should find eachother in a closet on Park Avenue, and he puts a $500 shoe on her foot, they will end up happily ever after.
Once a man wrongs me, there’s not a big chance that he’ll right it again. Its called a cycle of behavior. If they do something wrong, you tell them its ok, there’s going to be a part of his brain that says “I can do things that hurt her, but she will forgive me, so this time shouldn’t be an exception.”
Why do we let the closest people in our lives hurt us so much?
A lot of people have had this same reaction to the movie, but I have to say… was it entirely Big’s fault? I mean, there is no doubt that Carrie was really upset and depressed, but she was the one who let their relationship get away, and it was a series of misunderstandings that made what happen happen on their wedding day.
I thought the strangest part of the whole movie was that they really did decide to get married. Big and Carrie strike me as the type of couple that never really needed to do that, and I thought the disaster of a wedding proved that even more.
End of the day, it’s just a movie. But it’s a movie that so many women look to as love and relationship advice, I guess it makes sense we dissect it so much!